Circadian and Other Rhythms

Sometimes love isn’t obvious. Sometimes it doesn’t look the way you expect it to look. Maybe you’re good friends with an introvert. Maybe they usually take a while to get back to you if you call or text. Maybe you take it personally. Maybe you don’t realize they’re that way with almost everyone. It’s probably not a sign of how they feel about you even though you think it is. It’s more likely just an indication of how they function in the world. Maybe they’re good at being on time for their job and other responsibilities. Maybe you think this means you’re less important to them. Maybe you’re wrong. Maybe they’re all tapped out from having to put themselves out there (you know, be extraverted) for so many things in their lives. Maybe they need to recharge. Maybe they don’t need the added stress of you acting as if they’re being mean to you when they’re just being their authentic self. Maybe you shouldn’t expect them to validate your worth. Maybe you should do that for yourself. Maybe you should notice how they always come through when it’s important. Maybe you should notice how they seem to listen to what you’re saying with their whole being when it’s really important. Maybe you should stop trying to make them prove they love you. It’s just a thought.

Cinse Bonino
2023